Sunday, July 8, 2018

How to respond to negative people? Hit em' up style!

Are you happy?

This question keeps hanging on my mind lately. And honestly, I couldn't answer it firmly. Am I happy? Well, I used to be easily contented and happy with whatever God has given to me. I'm not that ambitious, having said that I will do my best come rain or shine and I'll work my butt off when it comes to my work. But if the end result is not on my side, I'm still contented. Of course, I'll be sad for a while, but I won't dwell too much on it. God has other plans for me, indeed :).

Lately, I found myself sulking for the smallest things. Always stressing, overthinking, and always negative. To be fair, I received unfair treatment and was taken for granted by my managers all the time. The reason is I cannot, and will not 'kipas their axx', ever. Work was hectic as hell but my motivation level is ZERO. Lately, I feel everything is against me.

Mr. Stranger pointed this over and over to me "You give people the power to control your emotion, that's why you are always emotional". "I am NOT, you Mr. Smarty axx. They are mean to me!" Of course that would be my answer to him, always. But he's starting to see as if I'm using him as a punching bag, always having to deal with my mood. Which makes me so sad because I never meant to do that. I was hoping that he would sympathize with my situation but that's just not his thing. "You are a strong independent woman, you shouldn't ask for people to make you feel better." Ouch, that hurts.

The truth is, you can't really change how people want to treat you. Especially in an organization where office politics is harsh, and people always see you as a threat to them to get that job promotion, leading projects, etc. Some people are just plain ARSHOLE, JEALOUS, and CRUEL. How the hell are you going to change that? But what you can definitely do is change how you react to their negative treatment. Personally, I would avoid conflict as much as possible, I can't deal with drama. But I guess I can't keep running away from it. I took these "10-Ways" from a website called Power of Positivity. 
The next time people are being mean, shall we try it?

1. Don’t take things personally - don't lose your cool @ and don't let them win.
2. Do not rationalize their behavior -just think that they are stupid.
3. Let them hear you - once in a while, give them a piece of your mind. They'll shut up.
4. Be compassionate - err, no thanks. They are stupid. and jealous. 
5. Separate yourself if needed - walkaway, always my 1st choice
6. Smile - how about, a nasty sarcastic smile?
7. Be mature - give an intellectual answer. make them go gaga.
8. Do not judge or assume - be neutral? hahaha..we'll see.
9. Set positive boundaries - control what you can control
10. Maintain a realistic POV - As such, in the event that a negative person is trespassing and violating your positive frame of mind, it may be necessary to end ties. Love this!

Like Mr. Stranger always said to me, be very good at your job that people cannot live without you. But they must pay an equal price for what they asked for. Know when you should 'jual mahal' and they'll learn to beg instead of commanding. Haish...I have yet to learn this skill.

Tuesday, March 27, 2018

To my beautiful stranger

So it's that phase again,
Where nights feels too short,
And days seems too long.

But this time it feels different,

This time is an exception,
For you are too precious,
Peculiar and bodacious.

Thank you for choosing to stick around,
Though you couldn't promise for how long,

So when it's time for our goodbye,
Let there be no regret, but only smile.
 
To my beautiful stranger;

That awakens my shielded emotion,
That captures my wounded heart,


Lets celebrate this union.
Lets celebrate us,

Before we return back this borrowed moments.

(27/03/18 - from FS to FK)            

















...and before I knew it, it ended..THE END.
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